The Romance of Flowers

For thousands of years, flowers have symbolized beauty, love, romance, fertility and a number of reasons to celebrate.

Everything about a flower embodies the unique way we experience sensations of joy and love – its shape, delicate or vibrant color, alluring aroma, and more. Flowers have done such an amazing job of training humans – we feel compelled to grow them in our gardens, bring them into our homes and give them to one another as symbols of devotion. I love when my partner surprises me with a bouquet of flowers (usually my favorite: stargazer lilies) simply to show how much he cares.

Aromatic flowers like rose (a classic symbol of romance), jasmine, neroli and ylang ylang developed their amazing scents to attract pollinators. We (humans) learned to harness that same magic for our own benefit. Cleopatra, one of the most sensual and alluring women in history, anointed herself with aromatic flower-infused oils to enhance her appeal and air of confidence. I love making aromatic versions of perfumes, body oils and sprays to infuse my home and my body space with the scents that I most associate with feeling loved. I find that keeping these scents around me inspires happiness, and most importantly, encourages my own feelings of self-love and self-confidence.


To me, neroli is the aroma that embodies absolute self-confidence and self-love. I joke that if I could be any essential oil it would be neroli. I never leave the house without my neroli roll-on. Every time I smell it, I immediately feel a sense of peaceful self-assurance, like I can take on and overcome any challenge with grace. Neroli is one of the more exotic smelling essential oils, which contributes to its sensual, unique effects.


Rose is the aroma most closely associated with romance. Roses are commonly found at weddings, given as gifts for anniversaries and romantic holidays, and have been used in aroma perfume making for generations. Roses are cultivated for both their incredible color and rich aroma. I grow several species of wild rose (Rosa rugosa, Rosa woodsii and Rosa virginiana) in my garden that I use for making teas, hydrosols and for simply enhancing the beauty of my garden. I use rose otto or rose absolute essential oil frequently in my aromatherapy blends, for their own value as a calming, restoring scents but also to harmonize the other oils in the recipe.


Jasmine’s beautiful white flowers and intoxicating, calming scent have long been associated with love, simplicity/purity and the moon. Because of that moon association, the aroma of jasmine always reminds me of the Greek goddess Artemis – one of the strongest, most powerful female images in history. One of my favorite things about living in India during college was being able to wear jasmine flowers in my hair every day. I felt so empowered and beautiful. Jasmine essential oil has a deep base note so I love adding a drop or two to other recipes to infuse an exotic, mysterious and lingering scent.

Alluring Anointing Oil

Inspire confidence and irresistibility with this flower-based roll-on recipe.


  1. In bottle combine essential oils.
  2. Top off argan oil, replace lid and shake until well blended.
  3. To use, roll onto pulse points on neck, wrists and inside elbows.

Betsy A. Miller
Contributor & Founding Member

I’m a clinical herbalist and aromatherapy educator with Aura Cacia. I truly believe in the healing magic of plants in all their many forms, from teas and tinctures to salves and essential oils. On any given day, you’ll find me in my kitchen concocting up a new herbal potion, or running around in the woods looking for new plants to harvest.

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Wanda C 2068949600

March 6, 2019 - 6:09pm

I am going to try this blend as well.  I like the bath salts idea.

Litza B

July 17, 2018 - 5:11pm

Amazing, I don’t know how to do oils, still I love them Roses because represents Virgin Mary. Jasmines, while visiting my family I found a beautiful white flower on a tree, I put in my head, when the breeze blows the smell was awesome, in an away it made me feel pure and happy. The reason I have to go to Brasil was because my grandma was died and asked for me. Seven days later God and the Angels took her. So Jasmine to me represent happiness and freedom. My grandma was finally free from the world worries. Well, she was always happy and love to cause problems. Today I don’t see as problems however an excused to keeping our family together. I know what she done to my mom. To me, it’s between them. If my mom forgave her, who is me to judge. She raised for a while, I always love her deeply. Flowers plants are connected with me deeply. Now, when I can I buy oils, spearmint or peppermint to cleaning my home. After washing my hair Roses, Jasmin. Orange to smells. My grandma makeup travel got all my oils. By the away, right after I came back to Brasil, my grandma was in my dreaming.

Betsy A. Miller

July 19, 2018 - 11:56am

It sounds like you have some lovely connections to these plants and their aromas!

Kesia R

July 16, 2018 - 7:47pm

Def can’t wait to try this blend

Herbalist Kristen

July 15, 2018 - 1:58pm

Sounds like a truly relaxing blend. I love neroli too~ so soothing.

Betsy A. Miller

July 19, 2018 - 11:57am

If I could be any essential oil it would definitely be neroli :)


July 11, 2018 - 10:47pm

Wonderful article, thank you for inspiring me.

Betsy A. Miller

July 19, 2018 - 11:57am

I’m so glad you enjoyed it!

Melissa Lampl

July 5, 2018 - 2:19pm

Flowers are so beautifully inspiring, thank you. I made your recipe today for a friend and tried it in a bath salt blend. Lovely!

Betsy A. Miller

July 6, 2018 - 11:12am

I’m so glad you enjoyed the recipe!!

Karen M 1518917796

June 21, 2018 - 7:34pm

I cannot wait to try this EO fragrant aroma. I use this to relax for my autoimmune disease lupus. Thank you.

Betsy A. Miller

July 6, 2018 - 11:13am

Having a source of calm and relaxation is so important! I hope you enjoyed the blend!

Lu Ann R

June 21, 2018 - 6:42pm

I love essential oils to create and sense of calm and wellness in my environment at home and at work.

Betsy A. Miller

July 6, 2018 - 11:14am

I agree!! Relaxation in all of our spaces is so important!

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