"Figuring myself out so I can be exactly who I was meant to be has been a lifelong goal of mine."
I used to say I wanted to be the perfect Charlynn. That’s a noble intention, but I eventually learned it wasn’t good for me in the long run. As I have grown, I’ve learned that the quest for perfection is one that leads me to thoughts and behaviors that are unkind and unloving. That kind of perfection is based on preset perfect ideals that you can attempt to achieve, but if and when you fail you miss out on a moment, an opportunity, or sometimes an entire experience that you didn’t think was ‘good enough.’
Perfection, once attained, is very difficult to maintain and is something that often gets in the way of true, abiding, self-love. Nowadays, I no longer feel the need to perfect something (my life) that isn’t supposed to be perfect in the first place. Instead, I now seek wholeness and authenticity. These pursuits have brought me to places of greater happiness with a deeper understanding of myself.