Finding peace in your home through breathing
We all crave space. Space to be ourselves. Space to be creative. Space to express ourselves. Space to simply be. To find this space, we must first create space within ourselves.
Most of us are constantly and consistently flooded with information and stuff. So much so that we often veer from the path of our most basic needs – connection, love, community, joy – in the name of “getting things done.” The experience of life can feel like a never-ending to-do list. Our homes, no matter how big or small, also bear the heavy energetic burden of all the stuff we are managing. Homes contain more than just our belongings – those walls house our bodies and all of our emotions, habits, thoughts and intentions.
The task of decluttering life’s congested highway within ourselves and our homes can be overwhelming no matter how much of a go-getter we are. If our external environment is a reflection of our internal landscape, most of us would benefit from a deep cleaning. When we get the itch to declutter it is generally a sign that we are ready to work with some unresolved energy.
Everything, including you, is made up of energy so it makes perfect sense that when your home starts to feel dense, you do as well.
Generally speaking, it is easier for people to tackle the physical clutter first as it is the most pressing. We need to have a clear table to eat meals, an inviting sitting area to relax and a welcoming bed to sleep. But we get comfortable with a certain amount of clutter. We don’t really notice it. It may even become invisible to the naked eye because our brain starts to see it as the “norm.” And then one day, as if out of nowhere, our space becomes unbearable and we just can’t take it anymore. Feelings begin to surface – anger, frustration, lack, shame, unworthiness – and overwhelm. Consciously or subconsciously, we recognize that something bigger, something deeper, has caused the clutter in the first place.
Body of work
If we think of our bodies as a temple (they house our emotions, our organs, our desires and so much more) we begin to see the connection between what we are feeling inside of ourselves and how our homes reflect exactly that same feeling. How do we create space within ourselves to get clear? Simply breathing will give us access to feelings that need to come up and out, and be cleared. This allows us to be an open channel for what our hearts desire most. When we create a clear energetic foundation our homes will vibe at the same frequency. Once we feel safe and stable emotionally we can begin to take conscious loving action in our physical space.
I stumbled upon breathwork meditation about 6 years ago and its effect on me would forever alter the course of my life. I actually wouldn’t be writing this article if it weren’t for breathwork. I wouldn’t have become a professional organizer and breathwork teacher if I hadn’t been dragged to a New Year’s retreat in New Mexico all those years ago. After one session, years of bottled up emotions and energetic karma began to literally pour out of me. People began telling me that I looked 10 years younger. They said I was calmer and more clear than they had ever known me to be.
The more I used my breath as a tool, the easier it was for me to navigate life’s challenges and manage my environment. And let’s face it, life isn’t always roses and unicorns no matter how much personal development work we do on ourselves. I use breathing techniques and breathwork meditation as a healing modality not only for myself but for my clients who are open to the deeper cut of decluttering. You see, it’s never really about the stuff. It’s about the meanings, the judgements and all the feelings we have wrapped up in the stuff.
A few years ago, I worked with a client we will call Sam. He was longing for his romantic partner, however, his living situation was less than ideal. He had relocated to California from his home state of Utah and was couch surfing. Eventually, he settled into a roommate apartment situation with a dear friend and had his very own bedroom. When he called me to help organize his space, it was clear to me that it was about way more than the lack of order on his desk and his mismatched hangers. He was craving connection with a significant other, yet his bedroom offered no space for a partner. There was no space for her to place her toothbrush or hang her coat.
We started our work together by first doing a breathing session. We called in the energy of love, allowing him to see his partner clearly and we visualized her in his space. Yes, we changed all his hangers, donated a bunch of old books and knick-knacks, got him a few pieces of furniture and a new comforter but, the real magic was Sam creating space for her – first in his heart and then in his physical space. I’m happy to report he met her and they just celebrated their one-year wedding anniversary. When we make space in our hearts and our minds for what we know we deserve we can more easily get our homes on board. The breath helps to clear the clutter blocking us from manifesting.
When we feel restless and heavy there is work to be done. It can be accomplished by simply breathing – trust me. Throw on some music, infuse your air with comforting scents, breathe and begin creating space within you and your home. You deserve every bit of it.
Essential oil suggestion
I’m a big fan of using scents to help open up the space for meditation and ritual - and yes organizing is a ritual! There is something to be said for ceremonies that have been around for centuries that use scent at the start. Burning a bit of sage and infusing the air with essential oils before a decluttering or breathing session sets the stage in the most simple, yet efficient, way.
I’ve chosen an uplifting and balancing diffusion blend that makes me feel inspired to create space. I hope you will enjoy it as much as I do.
5 drops each in water:
frankincense = meditative
bergamot = uplifting
clary sage = balancing
grapefruit = joyful
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