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Noteworthy Journey: Task 5
Self-Worth: Take A Real Look

The dictionary defines self-worth as “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.” Too often, our self-worth is tied more to how we look and what we own than how we feel and who we are.

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107 Comments

Nicole N

September 12, 2017 - 8:55pm

While my physical appearance doesn’t define me, it does reflect to a certain extent what I am doing to myself on the inside. I pressed the “reset button” last week on my healthy habits. It is when I am eating well, drinking tons of water, working out and getting enough sleep that I feel better about myself.  And when I feel better about myself, I’m less likely to be my own worst critic and can appreciate what is good about me on the inside.

Penny N

August 16, 2017 - 8:15am

I am actively applying for internships which is the final step in earning my Bachelors degree.  Yesterday I received an email, requesting that I interview for a position and what does my schedule look like in the near future.  The whole interview process, along with writing my resume, has made me really evaluate both my strengths and my weaknesses.  It has been very eye opening.

Mary Jane B

August 15, 2017 - 9:21pm

It was easier to list inner traits I love about myself rather than physical.

Inga O

August 10, 2017 - 12:04pm

No more makeup!

Mandy G

August 7, 2017 - 12:59pm

I really liked this task and think that while it can certainly be applied to one’s self, it can also be applied to every aspect of life. More focusing on the good, less focusing on the “bad”.

Jodie H

August 4, 2017 - 8:07am

I’m worth it

SerenityInYoga

August 3, 2017 - 7:00pm

I actually sort of did the opposite today. I am a stay at home mom and have been feeling run-down lately. However, today (and for the past few days, for that matter) I actually took some care to get myself ready for the day. This did include makeup, but a mostly natural look that only smoothed my complexion and emphasized my eyes (my favorite feature) a little. I felt like I had more energy and got more done and had more patience with my two/year-old because I was feeling good about myself.

Brenda P

August 3, 2017 - 10:23am

Funny this came up as a task! Though I’ve been practicing for years, I’m a new yoga teacher at 60 years old, and overweight on top of that. Not exactly what you’d expect when you walk into a yoga class. I have struggled for YEARS with body image and insecurity. I’m now beginning to embrace myself for who I am, not my body, hair, age…  I am finally starting to feel comfortable in my own skin—bingo flap arms and all. ❤️

Carol M 23624450

August 1, 2017 - 12:49pm

Changed my perspective.

Charlotte F

July 31, 2017 - 4:49pm

I find gratitude in the movement of my body. Genetically I am born with a certain way so I am working on loving that instead of trying to change it!

maryann t

July 31, 2017 - 9:06am

I work daily to focus on gratitude for the things my body does for me rather than what it looks like.

Heidi C

July 30, 2017 - 1:22pm

Being active, whether running or doing yoga, always makes me feel better about myself. I’m more in tune with my body and my mind and I’m less likely to worry about others’ opinions about me.

Nancy B

July 30, 2017 - 11:40am

I struggle daily with body image.  Yoga has definitely helped me love me, and release the negative thoughts.  Focusing on what I love and appreciate about me brings me peace and joy.  Being in a relationship where I am loved for me helps remind me every day that worrying about what others think does not serve me.  We are all worthy. <3

N. Masani L

July 29, 2017 - 9:16pm

My self worth comes in the for of knowing I survived domestic violence and found my way back to myself with a renewed view on were I need to be in my life. I had to learn to love all the “flaws” I was told and scolded about. It is still a challenge on days, but I know I have a purpose. I am more appreciative of my mind and body as it is and as it heals.

Kimberly H 1896111154

July 29, 2017 - 8:50pm

Haven’t taken a long good look at myself in awhile

Patty E

July 29, 2017 - 5:16pm

Yes, funny that I have been moving to less makeup and natural only.  Good to focus on what we really look like instead of trying to correct with makeup!

Ginger L

July 29, 2017 - 10:22am

This task is incredibly helpful for me. I’m on the process of reevaluating my priorities and scaling back my responsibilities to do what I enjoy.

maryann t 1249378127

July 29, 2017 - 9:17am

I have been working on this daily for several months.  Instead of naming my “flaws”  I make sure to be grateful for all my body does for me, for my compassion, my creativity and my ability to love others.

Mandy C 569440641

July 29, 2017 - 9:00am

This is amazing! I decided to stop wearing makeup because it wasn’t super important to me and I would rather focus on my inner beauty instead!

Donna R 523010227

July 29, 2017 - 8:55am

I always smile at my reflection when I pass a mirror.

Sharon S 62427155

July 29, 2017 - 7:30am

I still have days where I feel like I need to compete with women in magazines. Its crazy but true. Then there are days when I can go out and about wearing nomake up and feel perfectly fine in my own skin. I still have work to do when it comes to listening to my inner critic, but I am trying.

Linda C 1383584232

July 28, 2017 - 6:35pm

I have to practice looking in the mirror and saying “I am so adorable, I love me”. Any time I catch myself with that negative self talk I say the same thing. “I’m just sooooo adorable.”

Flissa M

July 26, 2017 - 5:32pm

Ok
I wear makeup every day. I’m gonna go out there and be cute without it!  Wish me luck!!!

Wendie H

July 25, 2017 - 10:05pm

It’s tough to not look at the sun damage, the wrinkles, etc.  But I look at myself as being strong, independent, capable, compassionate, and that is beautiful.

Adriana A

July 25, 2017 - 8:15pm

It made me remember the days I used to love to see myself in the mirror.  I’m still the same me… just forgot to pay attention to what I love about me.

Valerie J

July 25, 2017 - 7:52pm

I take this as a challenge to nurture my body and be healthy and naturally beautiful

shannon o

July 25, 2017 - 6:28pm

A great reminder. :)

Linda H 594503634

July 25, 2017 - 5:31pm

My self worth has increased over the years. I stopped caring about what others think. And the choices i make how are for me and my kids. I want to set a great example and guide them well through it all.

Jean U

July 25, 2017 - 3:39pm

I got a lot of self worth from a job I had 6 years ago.  It really came as a shock how much I had to work on my self worth after that. I had to redefine myself completely and see myself as I am..in a way without the makeup.

Lori M

July 25, 2017 - 1:49pm

Ouch.  I am my own worst enemy.

Cathy cs

July 24, 2017 - 6:04pm

I learned that it’s harder for me, due to the past year and half, than had been. I really had to stop and think.. what do I love about myself.  There are things to put on my list of “love me”, and some very good traits.

AlyCatJ

July 24, 2017 - 1:06pm

This is a great reminder to keep the self love strong!

Ashtree

July 23, 2017 - 9:59pm

Gotta love yourself before you can love anyone else. :)

Stacey

July 21, 2017 - 5:54pm

Especially growing older, you really start to notice flaws and imperfections and society wants you to think that their is a cream, or a hair color, or a bra that will change your life forever…I was so shy and shallow growing up, I really thought all I had to offer was they way I looked….many years older now, I am accepting who I am and focusing on what really makes me ME!!!  I also have two beautiful daughters that I tell them they are beautiful just the way they are… I’m learning everyday that those age lines and extra weight do NOT outweigh my love, my laughter, my caring for other people…those are the important things…and by the way, I love my stretch marks every time I see my children!!!! ❣❣

Jennifer F 1789836209

July 21, 2017 - 10:25am

I am a representative for a beauty company.  I love skincare and makeup.  However, I do believe that I have to be just as comfortable with, and it be ok to wear no makeup. 
I have spent years and years lamenting and working thru deep issues that kept me prisoner—so many lessons learned.  I only wish I had believed in myself (as I do now) when I was younger!

Michael D

July 21, 2017 - 8:24am

I have very low self esteem so this list was easy. I am honest, and loyal. I suppose those are good. Thanks

Melyssa S

July 21, 2017 - 7:44am

I have always loved my eyes and lips and hair, but when I think of self-worth I think of something deeper and completely beyond the physical. My worth is based on the fact that I am a being of light and love having an experience on this Earth. We are beyond the physical, so far beyond the physical, in reality. So many times we Bass our self-worth falsely on the things we can see in the mirror. That is such a small percentage of who we truly are. The things I love best about myself are my capacity to enjoy the beauty of the people I meet… The heart of compassion that reaches out to hold the hand of someone who’s hurting… the creativity that bubbles up from the depths of my soul and expresses itself through ART and music and dance and deep sacred Joy…

Mimi B

July 20, 2017 - 10:20am

This has always been difficult for me.  I am working on it and know that if I can admit my own self-worth it will go a long way towards feeling better in my own skin.

Eve J

July 19, 2017 - 5:01pm

This task hits close to home because it’s a lesson I’ve learned the hard way. I love and admire so many things about who I am Now and i honor that by being true to myself and loving myself unconditionally.

Radiah G

July 18, 2017 - 5:31pm

I love me! this task taught me how much i appreciate my eyesight. I lost part of my eyesight ten years ago due to a domestic violence situation. I truly love the fact that I am able to have full vision out of one eye and partial vision in the other. I learned also to not take things for granted such as love, walking, feeling.  This task makes me feel a way where I have to accept who I am. I am not the person I was 10 years ago or 10 mins ago.

Eve J

July 19, 2017 - 8:50am

Tracy S

July 18, 2017 - 8:44am

Self worth is not only about how you look - it is about how you feel in your own skin. In your own body. In your own mind. We are all worth more than the sum of our parts. We all have something to bring to the world. I want to be happy with who I am and what I bring. This is a good reminder that I am more than my physical appearance, but that my physical appearance can influence the way I see myself and I want to be happy with that part of me too.

Emma S 1503320526

July 17, 2017 - 6:20pm

I truly love my dimples.  I just need to overcome body image issues.  Ive struggled for years with this but Im hoping with positive exercises I will eventually learn to love myself.

iris n

July 17, 2017 - 8:45am

This is a difficult task.

Melissa K

July 16, 2017 - 12:18pm

I don’t ever take time to think about what I like about myself, just all the things I want to work on or dislike. This was a good task!

Carla H

July 15, 2017 - 11:54am

It is what it is… I can’t fix the bags, sags, pores. If I could I would. So I accept it and that’s what it is. I took make up lessons a long time ago but things change. I have adapted the makeup stuff to this aging face and feel like less is much better.

Stephanie W

July 15, 2017 - 9:17am

Not something I think about often so thanks

Melissa P

July 14, 2017 - 6:43pm

I’ve always liked myself but I find that as I age I’m not liking all the physical changes that come with aging, however, I don’t dwell on it. Yes, I would like to lose weight but I don’t beat myself up because I’m not successful at this. However, I would like to lose weight so that I am healthier. I am 54 and people don’t believe me. I have inherited my Dad’s family’s nice skin gene. I don’t have one wrinkle. People think I am 15 years younger than I really am. This makes me smile.

Michelle V

July 14, 2017 - 9:26am

Task was helpful as it was a reminder to me when I look in the mirror I remember I am beautifully and wonderfully made as a child of God!  I like my eyes which turn from grey to blue to green sometimes and my newly cut hair.  I feel loved and loving!

Rachael C

July 13, 2017 - 10:24pm

I like my blue eyes :) and my big, curly hair… even when it’s being ridiculous in the humidity!

Elicia S

July 11, 2017 - 9:12am

I like everything about me pretty much except my belly and butt.  My hair and face look good were I look younger than my age. I never wore makeup never will. I think natural beauty is best and not hide anything. I will were small amount of eye shadow liner and mascara on events but nothing extreme.

Alicia D 1223524777

July 11, 2017 - 9:00am

I love that I have sparkling green eyes and still look somewhat young. This was a hard task considering I am my own worst critic. I had to dig deep on this one.

Terry L

July 11, 2017 - 7:33am

There appears to be a common thread for women and the aging process ....while I don’t feel this way every day I have come to accept and embrace coming into this stage of life “Crone” ! While our body ages on the outside I have come to love what is on the inside…A strong ,wise and independent woman ...so when I look in the mirror I see the beauty within and when I am in this place of acceptance I shine!

Julie M

July 10, 2017 - 2:03pm

I too did not like this task. I’ve been In a bad place for the last three years but I am starting to work in self worth.

Debbie F

July 10, 2017 - 8:42am

I didnt like this task. This is something I will have to continue to work on. I see what is compared to whats there now. I try not to look in the mirror. Maybe someday I can make this happen not today or yesterday. I dont what to do

Jana S

July 8, 2017 - 6:49pm

I love that I look like my maternal grandmother. She is very loving and kind. I have struggled with thinking I am fat, my hips too large, my hair too thin. After facing death in the face, I am able to love me just as I am. After all; I do not judge others that way. A person’s soul is what draws me in. Just as I hope others are drawn to me for the same reasons.

Beth S

July 8, 2017 - 1:37pm

I feel like I should appreciate what I have and how I feel. I love my eyes and am trying to age gracefully and accept that with that comes wrinkles and its ok.

Aimee P

July 8, 2017 - 8:11am

As a breast cancer survivor, I’ve had the opportunity to work through my identity not being centered on how I look.  Tough stuff…. but so freeing to have room to see/embrace the gifts God has given me internally.  Grace - Peace - Stillness of Soul… these are beauty marks for me now.

Leslie W

July 8, 2017 - 7:39am

I am greatful for my eyes, to see the beautiful earth and my feet that take me where I want to go.

Kimberly C

July 7, 2017 - 9:09pm

I am grateful for eyes which see the good in the world and the smile that brings happiness to the people I greet every day. i have always been told I have an expressive face.

Michelle G 63595557

July 6, 2017 - 2:42pm

My eyes , my cheekbones and leadership skills are what I like about myself . I enjoy encouraging others

Takara B

July 6, 2017 - 12:45pm

I love my eyes, my nose, my lips and smile

KarenB

July 6, 2017 - 12:16pm

This was challenging! I can relate to the feeling of focusing on the negative when looking in the mirror. But today I looked into my own eyes and saw the clear beauty. I also like my hair and my smile.

Deborah

July 2, 2017 - 8:36pm

For the most part I am happy and confidant with my appearance, but lately the signs of aging showing are bothering me. I have learned to accept and embrace the wrinkles and fine lines and not feel like I need to have procedures done to change them. I know that it is what’s inside that’s most important. I think my best trait is kindness and empathy towards others.

Pat B

June 30, 2017 - 7:09pm

This was a difficult one after a hard day at work dealing with clients and fellow employees. I think my best trait is patience - do I love this about myself? There are times that I wish I wasn’t quite so patient. My appearance has never really been a factor - I mean I’m the type that gets up in the morning, barely looks in the mirror and am out the door. I do go to the gym to get in shape, but I think that has more to do with being healthy than looking good.

katheryn m

June 30, 2017 - 6:57pm

Each morning when I awake, I thank God for bringing me to another day.  As I see myself reflected in the mirror today, I accept the image I see and claim the grace and many blessings God has given to me and will continue to bless me with each day.

Kristin G 380952902

June 30, 2017 - 5:53pm

I learned that I am worthy of all that us good in the universe just as everyone is worthy.

amylou09

June 30, 2017 - 1:57pm

i am embracing my grey hair! i am 7 months into growing it out. loving it more & more every time i look in the mirror!

knitterofhats

June 30, 2017 - 8:11am

I do try to encourage myself to see the lovely traits I have instead of focusing on the negative….my belly and stretch marks. When I focus on my pretty gray hair, hazel eyes and strong chin, I do better in terms of focusing on the positive, as I work to quiet the negative voices. This works for me, when I can remember to do it.

Stacey L

June 29, 2017 - 10:30pm

This is hard for me but I have been trying to stop the negative self chat and instead embrace and express gratitude for all the ways my body supports me every single day.

Amanda A 148531489

June 29, 2017 - 5:20pm

This is an area where I struggle. Greatly. I want so badly to see myself as beautiful. I want my daughter to see me modeling self-love. But i struggle with doing that with my physical appearance. I always have. I lucked out though. My little girl is like a carbon copy of me as a child. I get the chance to try to see myself as beautiful all over agin because, to me, she is absolutely stunning. We share the same expressive,dark eyes. The same curved lips and dimpled chin. And oh the curly hair. I love getting the chance to see these things with love when I look at her.

Hildur S

June 27, 2017 - 3:45pm

I have not always felt like this but I am beautiful and I love my self :D

Linda By

June 27, 2017 - 12:26pm

That was a beautiful video. Thanks Angela.

Kelly L

June 26, 2017 - 9:00pm

I did a similar exercise in one of my yoga classes at school and it was profound. Sitting in front of the mirror staring. Acu at myself brought so many emotions out. It I began to see a woman with such strength that has grown over the last few years and I became so proud of that. I’m trying to be less preoccupied with looks and focus more on maintaining a friendly and dynamic personality to spread love and light to all.

Deborah D 1723552537

June 22, 2017 - 10:51am

Because of affliction I had to get 6” of my hair cut off because I couldn’t lift my arm. It looks even worse now so I am trying to like it.

Jennifer S

June 22, 2017 - 7:36am

This is one I am working on.  I am trying to get as much self love in, but struggling.  I will get there!

Kelli M 729007579

June 21, 2017 - 12:19pm

I believe that real beauty comes from within. Ladies, let your inner beauty shine through!

Janelle W

June 21, 2017 - 7:21am

This was a struggle for me. I purposely don’t have a long mirror at home. I don’t take the time to see the whole picture each morning because I don’t want to second guess or judge what I have on/how I look. This task was helpful in making me think about a different reason to look in the mirror, it can be to see the good.

Jackie C

June 16, 2017 - 4:43pm

It’s funny how we need to be reminded to appreciate our own beauty. What we don’t see as flaws in others we dislike and dwell on in ourselves. I am grateful for and appreciate my smile, my strength, my hair even though it’s graying. I love that it grew back after chemo. I will keep going to keep appreciating my outer as well as inner traits.

Sandra K

June 16, 2017 - 12:57pm

some days this feels really easy, some days it feels impossible ....

Aurelia M

June 13, 2017 - 5:47pm

This was tough. I am always my worst critic. I do have good qualities tho. Going to repeat them more often.

Kt

June 10, 2017 - 9:51am

A friend texted me this this morning: (The one that dances like nobodys watching yet everyone is, the one that radiates light even though her heart tells her otherwise, the one whose bright eyes tell stories that her mouth would like to keep secret. Be her. Because shes you and you deserve to be happy.)
Overall i see my good traits inside and out. I just feel broken right now but i owe this journey ive been on for still having the bright eyes that appreciate whats around me.

Just Bethy

June 10, 2017 - 9:44am

This was very hard for me, of the 4 dimentions of being, the physical is the hardest for me. Finding balance is something I work on. I appreciate my body as a vessel of my Soul but still working on finding something positive about it in it’s self.

Hope Knosher

June 10, 2017 - 8:33am

Having to young girls this is such an important topic to me.  I have struggled with my own insecurities over my life time.  I recently took a walk down memory lane in the way of photographs of 20 years ago and what I realized is that I have come so far (in a good way) and I credit the changes I have made to learning how to eat well, live clean, and to let go.

I have to give credit to the mind/body practice of yoga for being able to finally “let go”.  When I came to yoga I was in complete lock down mode after a lifetime of holding onto things and a recent cancer journey and the death of my mother.  I began to relearn how to breath and I began to let go and get present.  This has been transformational for me in every way ~ mind, body, and spirit.  I don’t beat myself up like I used to when I slip up and I don’t focus on the things I can’t change but I do put self care on my priority list!

Lee P 437177540

June 9, 2017 - 2:31pm

It was helpful to make an effort to look at myself positively. It made me realize that I’m always criticizing myself when I look in the mirror. I will make the effort to spend more time thinking positive thoughts about myself.

Tammey D

June 9, 2017 - 8:32am

I am turning 48 this year .. I am very active, love running, ran the Boston marathon in 2015, hit menopause and feeling like I am aging fast.  This is something I have to learn how to accept maybe even appreciate..this is a challenge for me ...

Samantha M

June 8, 2017 - 6:17pm

So often women focus only on our flaws. This helped me to appreciate the fact that I am beautiful and to recognize that when I look into the mirror. I focus on my favorite parts now when I look into the mirror.

Caroline M

June 8, 2017 - 7:57am

I stop hiding under makeup years ago. I realized that it was not the real me with it. I never liked my leg and always hide them with long skirt or pant, this summer those leg are going to rock the tiny short and enjoy the sun.They are my leg and I loved them because they are part of me, they are who I am.

Kristan G

June 8, 2017 - 7:47am

I strive to be a better version of myself ... each day can be a little different. Today I strive to be a better listener. Tomorrow maybe more patient? Curious and excited.

Kirsten W

June 8, 2017 - 7:35am

Reminded me of how awesome I am and how frequently I hide behind the things I dislike about myself and not let the real
me shine.  Moving forward I hope to focus on those positive traits as I continue to grow and find my way.

Kellee M

June 8, 2017 - 7:10am

Awkward experience but enlightening

Traer P

June 6, 2017 - 6:30pm

I feel sad that we all have to go through this in one form or another. But also feel encouraged by Angela’s note (thank you), reminded to make choices regarding where to put my energy whenever I can. Probably because I just saw Wonder Woman ;-) but really feel like these are radical efforts we’re making, a taking back of the world for love in places where it’s drifted away.

Vanessa T

June 5, 2017 - 6:12pm

Self woth is truly loving who you are. I never thought I was pretty. Always being teased about the color of my skin, my voice and my knees.  I am very knocked knees. The light cane on when i went to denist to have tooth pulled. It was very obvious. One of my things I love about me is my smile. Oh no I am going to have to hide my mouth.  Which is wierd to do. So many people I ran into made me smile without me even mentioning it or covering my mouth. I laughed I talked and still am still smiling no matter what. It felt good.

Elaine C

June 4, 2017 - 7:38am

My self worth comes and goes in waves.  I am trying to do things to make it more permanent in my life.  I am doing the Whole 30 now (week 3) and have lost weight.  That gives me more self confidence to do other things.  I know I am on the right track!

RACHEL T

June 4, 2017 - 3:24am

I’m learning that there is a thing such as self worth and it is important to pay attention to it. I am trying to dig around and see what my self worth is and not on outward appearance or anything I own. It’s easy to give up on yourself when you feel underappreciated but knowing who you are on a deeper level is the most important thing to learn. I find strength in this and enjoy reminding myself of the true greater qualities I have.

Ida S

June 3, 2017 - 7:01am

I love my smile!  I got braces when I was 48!

Rebecca S

June 2, 2017 - 8:23am

I turned 60 this year. My body has gone through a lot of changes the past few years.  I have come to terms with the fact that I will not have that “beach body” again.  I just want the healthiest body I can have.  I am nurse and keeping strong is imprortant to me so that I can continue giving the best patient care that I can. Yoga is an important part of my life.

TexasStrawberry

June 2, 2017 - 2:19pm

Yes, isn’t it just about pushing towards our best and healthiest selves! I too practice yoga and it has brought inspiration and epiphanies beyond anything I could have imagined when I first started. Here’s to being strong and flexible as we gracefully age and continuing to love ourselves healthy!

Lulu U

May 31, 2017 - 9:44pm

I never did put much of my self worth in my appearance, although most of my life I have been heavier than I like being. Now I am really struggling with my body, I am suffering from spinal stenosis and sacroiliac joint dysfunction and my mobility is compromised. I am in some level of pain all the time. I had to stop working full time because I just don’t have the strength or stamina. So now I am feeling not-good-enough, broken, damaged. I go to the gym every day, but it’s not to get a smokin’ hot bod, it’s to try to regain some of what I’ve lost.

TexasStrawberry

June 2, 2017 - 2:21pm

Keep up the work! It’s in our day to day commitment to ourselves and especially our health where we find our strength and our purpose. Wishing you the best on your journey. May you regain strength!

Lennea F

May 30, 2017 - 10:16am

This task is hard! I’m learning to accept my flaws from my whole body. I’m taking daily baby steps out of my comfort zone from less makeup to clothes that just cover me up. I’ve been given nothing but praise every time which is wonderful! My light of self love is shining more and more every day.

TexasStrawberry

June 2, 2017 - 2:16pm

I love your “Light of Self Love”! You are beautifully imperfect just like me and everyone else! Let that light shine!

Danna

May 30, 2017 - 9:51am

I am trying to be loving and nonjudgmental about my body. Not easy but trying.

TexasStrawberry

June 2, 2017 - 2:15pm

Yes! Keep going! You are beautifully imperfect just like me and everyone else! A pretty good reason to celebrate!

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