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Noteworthy Journey: Task 11
Acceptance: Be Kind To Yourself

It’s often hard to accept ourselves just the way we are – and even more difficult to be a kind to ourselves. Noteworthy founding member and contributor, Hope Knosher, found that accepting all of herself was an important journey toward her inner wellness. 

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57 Comments

Penny N

August 22, 2017 - 8:17am

I post daily on a Facebook page for an organization I belong to.  These are almost always positive in nature and accentuate positive thinking of yourself and your independence.  I reserve the snarky posts for my personal page.

Mary Jane B

August 21, 2017 - 11:03pm

Kindness is Everything. I try to live my life with those words always in my heart. With today’s task I am going to start reminding myself those words are for me too not just for me to give to others.

Mandy G

August 11, 2017 - 2:22pm

Yes! We need to be our own biggest cheer leader, which can be incredibly hard when the easier route is to put one’s self down, especially with pressure from the media, society, etc. It’s so important to value one’s self and embrace who you are.

Wendie H

August 8, 2017 - 6:10pm

It’s so automatic to berate myself I don’t even notice it most of the time.  I’m trying harder to stop calling myself names.  I certainly would not treat another the way I do myself.  So sad, I like the idea of creating an inner friend.

Manya J

August 7, 2017 - 5:23pm

I like the friend for myself when the critic jumps in.
Being nice to myself is a great task.
I treated myself to a day spent correcting myself.
Thank you friendly self.

Brenda P

August 7, 2017 - 9:05am

This is so much more difficult than it seems!  We’re always our own worst enemies.  I’m showing signs of my age (60) in a very youth oriented culture. I’m overweight in a skinny society.  This summer, I vowed to wear my “bingo flaps” proudly in sleeveless tops and to embrace myself as I am. This year, just before my 60th birthday, I became a brand new yoga teacher to, hopefully, inspire people of all ages, shapes, and sizes to come and practice.  No headstand, no popping into crow pose.  Just our beautiful-as-we-are selves on our mats doing the best we can easing our bodies into poses and finding our inner light.

Heidi C

August 6, 2017 - 4:27am

In general I am not a competitive person, but I know at times I am hard on myself and feel guilty about my life. When I do yoga I feel more grounded and balanced. This allows me to be more focused and push out negativity and realize I’m a good person.

N. Masani L

August 5, 2017 - 9:27am

I will do this task. I have been taking care of sick family so I know I need to do this asap.

Mandy C 569440641

August 4, 2017 - 9:34am

This is amazing I think everyone could use some more love in there lives especially from themselves!

Donna R 523010227

August 4, 2017 - 9:28am

I love reading everyone’s comments. 
I guess I never gave my inner critic a name.  He’s there and today I will silence him.  Drinking my coffee and pondering as I read over your comments. 
Thank you…..it’s going to be a good day.

maryann t 1249378127

August 4, 2017 - 7:35am

This is something I work on daily. I use a lot of positive afformations and continue to challenge the old beliefs about myself.

Patty E

August 4, 2017 - 7:34am

Yes, this is something that we could all practice more.

Sharon S 62427155

August 4, 2017 - 7:27am

It is an almost daily struggle to quiet my inner critic. Somedays I feel wonderful in my own skin,then there are days that I look at my reflection and all I can see are my flaws(perceived or otherwise). I know this all comes from past experiences, in childhood, in my upbringing, the way I was never really given the unconditional love that I needed. I have been working on this very heavily for the past 3 years. My yoga mat was where I truly began to see and accept the whole of my being.

Ginger L

August 3, 2017 - 3:09pm

I started the day taking some extra time for myself and taking a nice long bath. It feels very refreshing to do extra things for myself and to reflect on my personal journey.

Charlotte F

August 3, 2017 - 1:42pm

I love the idea of writing a thank you note to myself. I’m definitely going to start that because it is a wonderful self building tool as well as self acceptance.

Cathy cs

July 30, 2017 - 7:31am

I am busy throughout the day with work.  There were a couple times I caught myself thinking about what’s going on and was aware of how I talk to myself.

Jennifer F 1789836209

July 27, 2017 - 10:12am

accept ALL of yourself .. the good, the bad, the “just is”.

Michael D

July 27, 2017 - 8:55am

This morning I will have some “award winning” coffee, found it in Etsy.com and it is absolutely delicious, called “Uncharted Grounds” I would recommend it to all coffee lovers :)  The rest will be a challenge, I tend to be very harsh on myself but I will try today…many thanks

Rachael C

July 26, 2017 - 11:24pm

Treated myself to a Starbucks frappuccino and vanilla scones. It’s an interesting process, silencing the self-critic. Today when I thought something like that, I stopped and made myself come up with a self-compliment instead. That’s what I would do for a friend - point out the things they’re doing well. It’s amazing how much better and more accomplished I feel at the end of the day!

Adriana A

July 26, 2017 - 9:35pm

Switch off the inner critic, that’s an interesting task!

Valerie J

July 26, 2017 - 7:42pm

This has to be the most difficult task of all

Eve J

July 26, 2017 - 5:48pm

Thank you, Self
for accepting who you are, flaws and all and for accepting others for who they are.

Stephanie W

July 26, 2017 - 11:49am

I “treated myself” with a bagel and coffee this morning.  I reassured myself with the words of Mother Theresa in response to feeling angry about feeling misunderstood: “If you are kind, people will accuse you of ulterior motives.  Be kind anyways.”  I asked my boss for support when feeling overwhelmed by a situation instead of feeling angry inside that I didn’t know how to handle it.  And I’m telling myself, “Good job asking for help.  you are learning how to do something new that you need to practice.”  Anger tends to be my default reactionary emotion to stress and fear so I love that this challenge is helping me learn other ways to cope with stress and be proactive about my wellness.

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July 25, 2017 - 7:10pm

Always very helpful to be reminded to be good to yourself. I try to cheer myself on verbally everyday with a (silly, but) personal mantra. Doesn’t always happen. And then it occurs to me, I’d never speak to someone else as poorly as I do to myself.

shannon o

July 25, 2017 - 6:34pm

More difficult than I anticipated - but worth it!

Jean U

July 25, 2017 - 5:29pm

My reflections ...Why are we so mean to ourselves. It would never be okay to say some of the things we say to ourselves to someone else. I cant love others until I love myself. This is deep.

Lori M

July 25, 2017 - 1:58pm

This fits so nicely with my current commitment to a daily Loving Kindness meditation.  I’ve gotten so mean and critical to myself lately.  This is just the reset I needed.

Linda By

July 25, 2017 - 12:01pm

I love the idea of writing myself a thank you note at the end of the day. I may even write one to my husband at the same time because we can all use total love and support.

knitterofhats

July 25, 2017 - 11:55am

Wow - being supportive of myself as I would a friend. This is something my inner-critic easily forgets.

Elicia S

July 25, 2017 - 11:30am

Looking in the mirror telling myself I’m a good person

Caroline M

July 24, 2017 - 10:36pm

I’m getting better and better with accepting myself and the way I am. And also accepting my better half the way he is…

Amber N

July 23, 2017 - 12:41pm

I will enjoy myself today.. which is hard as I’m usually to busy taking care of everyone else and then am down on myself for not being as healthy or glowing as they are.. lol. So this is a good reminder to just take care of me for a minute and give myself some love! I deserve it!

Flissa M

July 23, 2017 - 9:30am

Taking meditation as medicine is helpful to strengthen my nerves and open my mind!  Ultimately trying to lose that self critic you speak of!

Aimee P

July 14, 2017 - 7:17am

If I gave myself as much grace as I give to others, I’d be more comfortable in my own skin.

Barb C

July 13, 2017 - 8:25am

Why is this always so hard. We are so mean to ourselves. This morning I put on a skirt that I love and decided today is all about loving me. This was a great reminder to love me.

KarenB

July 12, 2017 - 11:14am

This task was just what I needed. I started the day with morning yoga & meditation, and the idea to write myself a thank-you note at the end of the day is lovely. All day today, I am working on cultivating self love and acceptance.

Tammey D

July 12, 2017 - 7:16am

Love the positive reference to inner friend rather than just inner voice ..thank you

Pat B

July 6, 2017 - 7:51pm

I guess I could write myself a thank you note for getting through this week. It’s been one of those weeks where it seems nothing has gone right - went bicycling with my daughter and a couple of her friends and crashed the bike (black and blue all down my left side, but fortunately no broken bones); sprained my ankle in the cardio class at the gym; work has been crazy dealing with everything…what would I tell a friend? Go with the flow - there are just some weeks that are hard to get through and next week will definitely be better - Think Positive…I’m trying….time to love myself by having a nice cup of tea, put my diffuser on and just relax…

katheryn m

July 6, 2017 - 1:48pm

I have learn to take extra care of myself every day.  I had the habit of taking care of others before myself. I had guilt on the occasion that I purchased anything for myself - clothing, perfume or candles, special bath products, etc.  Now, I treat myself to something special as the situation occurs.  Example:  when I was grocery shopping I bought a mini orchard plant and a box of chocolates for myself!  I used to look in a mirror and criticize myself for looking like my mother.  Now I complement that image with comforting words of “Hey, Girl, you look great!”

Jennifer S

July 5, 2017 - 8:58am

I love this task.

irisj225

July 3, 2017 - 6:28pm

Yes I am going to buy special stationary that I note cards that I can use to write myself a note daily

Janelle W

July 3, 2017 - 10:33am

Being kind to myself is also knowing where my limit is…when my plate is too full. It it extremely difficult for me to say no I can’t do something or I don’t have time. I always try to figure it out and get it done. Lately, I’ve been trying to be more kind to me and more realistic. “I will be a lot less stressed if I admit this is not going to happen right now”, etc.

Marsha W

June 29, 2017 - 4:02pm

What a great observation, Holly.  I hadn’t considered the link between the physical expression of stress and our inner critic.  Thanks for that share—when I start with the negativity I’ll be checking if my jaw is clenched!

April D

June 29, 2017 - 2:02pm

Calming the inner voice has always been difficult for me. But as I age I realize it is so rewarding to be at peace with myself.

Holly W

June 28, 2017 - 3:39pm

So challenging to quiet that voice ;) I usually check to see if my hands are relaxed~then usually inner critic is too

Just Bethy

June 28, 2017 - 12:32am

I enjoyed this, something I need to make a weekly habit.

Jackie C

June 27, 2017 - 10:49am

The hardest part of accepting myself came by way of accepting my passion. I owe some sizable school loans and would normally keep plodding down a path just because I feel that’s what is expected of me. Instead, I’ve decided to cut the strings and allow myself to pursue what gives me joy. I’m just starting down this new path but I already feel good giving myself permission to just be me and love myself whatever that is.

Charlynn Avery

June 28, 2017 - 4:39pm

I loved reading this, Jackie.  Letting go of the notion we have to stay on a path because of something like student loans is a surefire way to be held back from our potential.  Sometimes we go to school to learn that the path we chose isn’t the path we are supposed to be on.  This takes GUTS!  Way to go (and from someone who went to many schools and is still paying loans), I can attest that whatever it takes to move us to where we are supposed to be is what matters the most.  Not the expectations others may have for us because we ‘went to school for it’.  Blessings to you on your next endeavor.

Kelly L

June 26, 2017 - 9:12pm

Sometimes I can definitely be too hard on myself. I told myself that it’s ok to not accomplish everything at once. Good things take time and great things sometimes even longer but my journey is meant for me and what will be will be.

Ida S

June 26, 2017 - 7:05pm

Wrote things I was thankful for when I caught myself complaining.  Helped change my perspective.

Susan C

June 26, 2017 - 5:14pm

I’ve gotten better at making sure I take care of me and accept who and where I am.

Veronica P

June 25, 2017 - 8:15pm

Oh I am definitely my own biggest critic. This was so helpful for me to just recognize the negativity I can foster in my mind through out the day. Changing the thought significantly improved my mood! It was like night and day!

Sandra K

June 23, 2017 - 5:35pm

so important! gave myself an afternoon off this week, went to yoga and took some time to read, diffusor going, happiness! :-)

Kristan G

June 20, 2017 - 8:40am

Hmmm, give myself the same love I give my Friends and family…. ok. Great way to put it. I am a mother of three boys who are all home for the summer. So this is an excellent reminder. I will take one hour a day to do something for me every day. Today it’s a swim in the pool/ice coffee; tomorrow it’s a spin class;)!

Vanessa T

June 18, 2017 - 10:16pm

The inner journey to loving self.  Is so heart warming joyful sometimes sad because when one truly looks within to see how we hurt ourselves and others by not loving self. Although it is good to see this so that to love even more.

Elaine C

June 17, 2017 - 8:01pm

I try to accept my body as it is.  I always thought I would have acceptance for myself by now, but no matter how old I get I am still harsh with myself.  So today I went easy on myself.  I relaxed and thought positive.  I thank myself for giving myself a break!

Kt

June 16, 2017 - 9:26am

Ive neen spending time w this. Allowing all my feelings to be felt without stopping them or making myself feel bad for feeling them and pushing positivity. Im the first to see something good in things but if i just shut down other feelings and go straight for the positive the initial feeling just creeps up! I have to allow myself to appreciate the process for myself too instead of just trying to help others do that. I am so grateful that through whats been going on lately i can still see the beauty of it too! Thank you me you and us! I love you!

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